Being Fifty-Something and 20 Things I’ve Learned

  They say…hindsight is 20/20. And so it is with me.

When I first published my very first post on this blog, I had no idea what these three words would lead to..”Perspective is everything.”  This is what I chose to use as the tagline for The View From My Window.

Tagline? What’s a tagline? Simply put, it’s a catchphrase or slogan which clarifies what you want to briefly say or portray to your audience. Basically, the tagline helps others see the bigger picture in a small way.

Yes, perspective is everything.

And this is why…

When I was twenty, I couldn’t wait to be thirty-something. When I was thirty, I was too busy to even realize I was thirty. When I hit forty, I often thought back to when I was twenty. Now that I’m fifty-something, I realize I’m aging and life moves on regardless of the decade.

The amazing paradox of it all, it took aging to actually make me feel young again. This is my perspective on: What fifty-something has taught me so far…

  1. Faith requires a constant commitment. There’s no in-between.
  2. I’ve learned to no longer ‘wear my feelings on my sleeve.’ I’m not the center of someone else’s universe.
  3. I listen to my inner voice more often. My gut instinct is usually right.
  4. A twenty-something may only see my wrinkles and that’s ok.
  5. Life is too short for negativity…at any age.
  6. Everyone has an opinion and it’s ok to agree to disagree.
  7. Living with an autoimmune disease sucks but I’m still blessed with good health.
  8. It’s possible to love your grandchildren as much, if not more, than your own children.
  9. You won’t know if you don’t ask.
  10. Singing out loud in the car is good for the soul.
  11. Life has no purpose unless God is in the center of it.
  12. Letting go of adult children doesn’t really mean ‘ letting go.’
  13. Learning the meaning of death comes in many ways at any age.
  14. Old friends become more important and new ones can become family.
  15. Take nothing and no one for granted.
  16. My battle scars have become my beauty marks.
  17. The word ‘trending’ is overused.
  18. Never eliminate adventure from life. Existing isn’t enough. Find a passion for a purpose.
  19. It’s hard to tolerate ‘meanness’ but much easier to endure through forgiveness.
  20. The language of laughter is essential in life.

This is just a list of twenty things I’ve learned in my fifty’s, but there are so many more. There’s no denying it. I’m aging. That’s a given. But the way I see it, there’s always going to be someone older and wiser. There will always be someone with wrinkles deeper than mine. But getting older is merely a state of mind. It’s not about the outward appearance but more about the person we become.

What are your thoughts on aging? Please share.

This fifty-something wants to know. 🙂

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37 Replies to “Being Fifty-Something and 20 Things I’ve Learned”

  1. I love your list, Laura, and agree with every one of your points! I even followed something of the same thought pattern you did from age 20 to 50-something, and now just ever so slightly beyond that. However, I do find myself with some regrets in my life, perhaps several. I believe anyone who says they have no regrets hasn’t done a deep enough examination of their life and the opportunities they have had, and missed…(my opinion)…


    1. Appreciate your opinion! I think sometimes we can regret our mistakes but yet thankful for the learning experience which can cause the thinking of ‘no regrets.’ Does that make sense?😂

        1. Thanks Steve. The only reason I say that is because I have made some big mistakes in my past. It’s only because of those mistakes that I am where I am today. I can’t even imagine how my life would have been or could have been without my husband, children and grandchildren. My life would have been totally different…and probably not for the best. So in this case, I personally regret my mistakes but thank God he allowed me to make them. 🙂

          1. So very well said, Laura! I have many regrets that should have been “teaching moments” for me, but I lost them in wasted opportunities. My previous marriage was a total train wreck, and I wish I had taken more away from that experience. You are not rowing the boat alone when it comes to big mistakes, lady! I’m right there with you…God is still working on me, big time!!

            Steve 🙂

            1. Oh boy…Is he ever still working on me, as well. I’m sorry to hear about your regrets of your first marriage. I’m very thankful I stopped making the big mistake I made years ago… or should I say, “My parents helped me to stop making..” I would have been in a train wreck, as well. Relationships are a tough one.

  2. I had a difficult conversation with a friend today and so much of what you say here rung true throughout that talk. I thank God for your and this awesome ministry.

  3. Wow! I am totally moved this your 20 reasons, each and everyone of them. I am 66 now and when the day I turned 50, I was totally alone, I did not not celebrate my half century and right now, I wish I had been able to read your blogg on that day, I would have 20 reasons to believe in myself, 😊 thank you, it’s never too late to onboard fantastically wonderful advice. I don’t look in the mirror anymore, the reflection I see, is not me, I am 66 years young, and I love my life now, after )0 years of trying to vid myself, I found myself in a name, Annie! Cheers, I will follow your 20 reasons all the days of my life, they are 👍

  4. Lovely post, Laura! I too feel younger at 57 than I did in my 30’s. I believe it’s never too late to be reborn, to change our life. I did that and wow, I never believed I’d feel like a teenager again! I love feeling that there’s no person I’d rather be than who I am today!

    1. I’m so glad to hear you say this. It’s encouraging to know that it’s possible to enjoy life to its fullest as we get older. Thanks for making me smile. 🙂

  5. Oh! I so loved the 18th wisdom thought, Laura. <3
    Though all points are worth one's rumination, but 18th has a bit more special connection with me. 🙂
    Glad to be in touch with such a cool grandmother, mother, wife, sister, woman! 😉

    1. Thanks Aditi. Not sure how cool I am but I’m very blessed. I appreciate your kind words. You are an inspiration to me and so many others. I count you as one of my blessings. 🙂

  6. I never thought about getting old and now that I am approaching my 60’s I still don’t feel like I’m old. I actually feel like I’m in my 30’s still. I was happy to find my new lifestyle change when I turned 50 and I believe that has made a world of difference in how I feel and the amount of energy I have. I am blessed! Thank you for this post!

    1. Thanks Susan. I just turned 54 on the 16th which is what prompted this post. Wouldn’t it be awesome if we were still blogging on our 100th birthday. Now that would be a post to read. 🙂 Thanks for commenting. I really appreciate it.

  7. I felt strange when I reached 70, how did I get here ? Yet one of my parents reached 91, the other from a family with very poor health genes still reached 81. I am coming to realise that I just have to make the most of what comes along. It may or may not be lengthy.

    1. I haven’t felt strange yet. Some birthdays don’t phase me at all as where others seem to just make me think about where I am, where I’ve been and where I’m going. I totally agree with making the most of what we are given. We only have but this one life. Thanks for commenting. 🙂

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