Why It’s OK for ME to Delete Facebook Friends


Once upon a time, I remember my children saying, “Mom, you should get on Facebook.” Hee Hee 🙂 I just shrugged it off saying, “No thanks. That’s not for me. That’s for the younger generation.” That was over seven years ago and was I ever wrong. Facebook may be a book of faces, but it can be so much more.

Facebook has been known for just being a popularity contest. The more friends you have and the more “likes” the more popular you are. Not so true, these days. It’s more about “deleting” and “unfriending” and this is why…

I have never been nor ever want to be a part of drama. Drama is such a waste of time. At some point and time in our lives, we will eventually experience it without asking for it or provoking it because that’s just a part of life. Ahh…just imagine living life without drama. I can’t. It’s simply not possible. Although we can eliminate some drama from our lives, we can’t always avoid it.

With my Facebook at 859 friends, I noticed that I was only seeing a handful of posts from those 859. To be a part of a group with so many friends, I thought I would be able to see all 859 all the time. NOT!  This made me realize that if I’m not seeing many of my friends posts, then there is a good chance…they do not see mine. With a little research, I found that Facebook showed that the average news feed story from a Facebook profile reaches only 12 percent of their friends. If that’s the case, why have so many friends?

So far, Facebook has been a good experience for me. I have been able to connect with friends and family which I have not seen in years, and possibly may never get the chance to see again. I have also been able to connect with others who I may not be friends with in my personal life, but I have similar interests to maintain a good Facebook connection.  I  always look forward to checking in with my circle of friends.

If we are Facebook friends and I have not connected with you for a long time, I hope that will change. I have deleted over 100 so-called friends, and I don’t say that to be mean…I’m just saying that we weren’t really friends. Facebook may  say we were but by my definition, we really weren’t.   After the changes were made, I pulled up my Facebook feed and had already noticed posts that I would not have normally seen. Mission accomplished.  🙂

And you know what the ironic thing about all this is?  Some may not even see this post because they too, have too many friends. (LOL)  Although my circle of friends may decrease in number, my hope is that it will increase in value.

To me, Facebook shouldn’t be about the followers

but more about the friends.

Until next time,

Laura

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29 thoughts on “Why It’s OK for ME to Delete Facebook Friends

  1. Good for you! Love everything you said here. It doesn’t even bother me anymore when I see people with over 1,000 “friends” because I know only a very small percentage of that is their true friends.

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  2. I am with you 100% on the “drama” thing. I can’t stand all of this protesting and bickering over Mr. Trump and such. No, I don’t want to make this a political comment. I won’t say anything about the issues being tossed about. I just hate the “beating drums,” on both sides!

    I only have just about 260 friends, but speak to just a handful. It’s the “friends of friends” that got me going some time back. I’m not a big fan of social media, but of course I do use it to some extent much of the time.

    Anyway, a good post Laura!

    Steve

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    • I hear what you’re saying, Steve. Much like everything else, media is a tool. It’s our responsibility to use that tool for good intentions. And so…I continue to blog, tweet and post and hope that somewhere, someone may benefit from the positive. 🙂

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  3. I don’t feel comfortable posting personal photos or information on Facebook. What I really love it for is for sending private messages. It’s a quick and easy way for me to share thoughts, photos, and videos privately for free. You see, my phone is quite low-tech and only used for calls and simple texting. Anything beyond that quickly uses up my prepaid minutes. (I love the prepaid phone cards! My phone bill averages about $15 per month! I admit, though, I usually borrow a friend’s phone to call places like insurance companies and things where I know I’ll be put on hold or it will take a long time.)

    I also love some private Facebook groups I’m in, like a ladies prayer request group and yard sale sites. It’s fun to video chat with my mom on days when I haven’t been able to see her for a while.

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  4. Hello Laura. I read your post. I’m impressed… I too am Christian and this post alone solidifies one of the posts that I wanted to write upcoming about why I left Facebook and what it means to my Christian values. Thank you for writing such a thoughtful piece I don’t look forward to reading much more of your work… God bless the day that he has made…

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    • Thanks. I’ve also managed to find out that I can go through my list of friends and check those whose posts I want to see first. Between the purging, unfollowing and choosing to see in my feed first…it seems to be giving great results.

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      • I hear you. I haven’t been on my blog in forever. I do the same with blogs as well. Once I’m not reading them I unsuscribe. I’m thinking if I spend less time on social media I might get around to reading some more on WordPress. My life seems quite busy now.

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  5. I deleted a number of friends because so many of their posts were for family, whom I did not know. Other posts were quite tedious and unimportant. If I want to contact those people if I really want to.

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  6. I’m thinking this over again. If I have 300 friends. 12% of them would mean face book sends me info from 36; if I cut my friends to 100, I would only be fed from 12 of them. That’s not what I want. Where am I going wrong? At first I was thinking I would still have the 36 who would all be more meaningful to me, but that wouldn’t work, would it?

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    • Hey Oneta, That’s a really good question. From what I’ve been reading and to my understanding…the two main reasons for very few seeing your posts and you not seeing theirs is because there’s too much content published which makes the feed visibility competitive. The second reason is because Facebook is actually picking and choosing what is relevant for the readers in the feed. But for me, I don’t see any reason for me to hang on to those acquaintances that I never see or relate with at all. Eliminating some has actually allowed me to see posts from others I’ve not seen.
      I’m not sure if it will work for all but it’s making a difference in my news feed.
      I will try to research it more. Let me know what you decide to do and if it works. But, I’m just trying to downsize my friends-list to actually only have those friends and family that make a difference in my life.

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  7. I don’t have a fb personal page. I didn’t see a reason why since I usually am connected to family and friends the ole fashion way. 😉 but there have been times when my sis would update me on other people’s lives. Ha. Good info!

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    • Thanks for commenting. I would truly prefer face-to-face or hearing their voice over the phone…but these days, many people text and use media as their means of communication. I still talk to my kids, grandkids and parents everyday in the most personable way, but everyone else is digital. So glad I can connect with you through media! 🙂

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  8. This is valuable information. So I’m going to delete some also. I never hear from them. And you indicate that if I delete a lot of acquaintances who know my acquaintances kind of friend, then I might get info from real acquaintances. Makes sense.

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    • Let me know how it’s going. I also found a way to see certain friends posts show up in my feed just by checking their name for the option. It seems to be working. 🙂

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  9. I only have around 50 friends – people from church. Ten of these are people from my past – old friends. I personally do not truly care for Facebook. My daughter and granddaughter said I needed to be on Facebook. I do not post family photos or personal information on Facebook – I feel it is not safe to do so. I do not try to impress anybody in anything I do. I post photos of nature now and then and scripture.

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