There is no one right way when it comes to being a mother. There are many ways to being a successful mom, whether you hold down a full-time job or not.
My children are grown now, but I remember feeling guilty for being a stay-at-home mom. Being young and new to motherhood, all I wanted to do was be home with my precious baby girl.
Struggling with just one income, my husband supported my decision but I felt so much guilt for not contributing to paying the bills. Life as a young married couple was challenging but adding a child and subtracting an income was even more challenging.
I knew if I worked, I would have to leave her with someone else to care for her. How could I do that? That was my job. I was her mother. And then there was the question of ‘How could we even afford to pay for child care?’
~So stuck between a rock and a hard place, I chose to stay home.~
Some mothers who are happy working full-time say they are a better parent because of being employed. They feel they are able to appreciate their time with their children and it’s about quality, not quantity. Of course, some would love to spend more time with their children, but the time spent is spent well. Whichever mom you are, employed or stay-at-home, you are supporting your family by your decision.
To all you moms, don’t feel the guilt. It won’t be beneficial to you, your work or your family. Try to find peace in the midst of the craziness. You know…the moments when everything seems to go wrong and you feel it’s all your fault. It’s NOT!
IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT!
Take a few minutes each day to focus on you. Remind yourself that you don’t have to be a supermom. Just be their mom.
This is your journey…
Ask yourself, ‘What would make you happy?’ Is it attainable? And then go for it? Sacrifices may need to be made, but in long run…it may be worth it.
To all you moms…You are not wrong for working! You are not wrong for staying home. And, you are not alone. Many mothers feel the same guilt as you.
To all you dedicated mothers…You are admired because when you tire, you keep going. All through the beautiful chaos, you remain strong and amazing. You are their rock.
God has given you a purpose. That purpose is within you and only you. Find it and fulfill it and give God the glory. You are admired. Your passions, your fears, your struggles and tears are creating a beautiful picture that you may not see right now, but I promise…Someday you will.
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(Photos: Me with my two grandsons. Hands: Mine and my oldest grandson.)